Is this real??

You guys, I swear to god someone is messing with me. There hasn’t ever been a pregnancy in history that has had more ups and downs than this one. Our ultrasound today was either a very cruel joke or the best news I’ve had in years.

We showed up for our ultrasound this morning feeling pretty pessimistic. It’s not that I didn’t have any hope. I haven’t had any bleeding for weeks now, so I was kind of thinking that the embryo/fetus/baby was still in there plugging along. But the most I had ventured to hope for was that there would still be a heartbeat, but a slow one. I thought the best I could ever expect would be a continuation of the limbo I’ve been in.

The ultrasound tech was merciful and rather than starting with measurements of my ovaries and my peri-ovarian mass like she usually does, she went straight to the baby. It was immediately obvious that it had grown. It looked distinctly different than the last time, much more baby-shaped. And before I had a chance to even look, G said “there’s still a heartbeat”. The ultrasound tech agreed, and right at that moment I saw it kick. I immediately started to cry, and said “this is just too hard”. I thought, how can we be tortured like this with a moving baby that won’t survive? I hadn’t even ventured to hope yet that it could be okay.

She measured the CRL (crown-rump length), and it was 9w3d. I’m technically 9w5d, so that sounded a little low to me, but since it’s measured a little small every time, this probably isn’t anything to worry about. Then she measured the heart rate. You guys, it was 171. This is after a 117 and a 106 two weeks ago. I mean, how??? How does this happen?? I said, “Is that real???”, and she had a big smile plastered on her face. At this point, G dissolved into a full on crying fit. Not a few tears, but a full on snot-fest. I’m honestly not sure if I’ve ever seen him cry that much.

She took a bunch more measurements and couldn’t find anything to be worried about. The whole time the baby was squirming around like crazy. I don’t even know how to express how shocked I am. I never ever ever expected that I would make it this far in a pregnancy, and all of a sudden there’s a little thing that actually looks like a baby squirming around inside me. It doesn’t feel real at all. These things just don’t happen to me. In fact, I can’t help but think that this is just a cruel joke. We can’t help but be invested when we see a moving baby, and it will only be that much harder to have it ripped away if it doesn’t work out.

We met with Dr. O, and he agreed that there’s nothing visible today that looks worrying. He also agreed with me though that this is still a high risk pregnancy. He said there’s no one thing that’s happened so far, or in my history in general, that would make it high risk, but the whole package raises the risk level. So, we are by no means in the clear here. I wouldn’t kid myself that we are out of the woods and this is just a normal pregnancy. Since I’m now almost 10 weeks, he’s sending me to a high risk OB and a maternal fetal medicine doc asap (I graduated!). I’m really glad about this because it seems like the high risk doctors will give us the best chance of success. I’m definitely not comfortable being treated as a ‘normal’ pregnant woman at this point. We will schedule an anatomy scan for a week or two from now, and that will definitely give us a lot more information.

I’m having trouble even organizing my thoughts at the moment. I’ve barely even been thinking of myself as pregnant up to this point, and suddenly now I’m 10 weeks pregnant. My belly is sticking out for real, and I now need to look in to getting some bigger clothes. People are probably starting to suspect I’m pregnant, and I haven’t been hiding it that much because I figured they’d just think they were wrong when nothing came of it (they’d just figure I gained some holiday weight). I will actually be going to see an OB for the first time, and will actually have an anatomy scan. All of these things I never thought I would get to do.

For right now, I’m feeling really great. I know that the nerves will set back in soon, and I’ll start to worry like crazy. Given the way things have gone over the last few months, there is every reason to think the next scan will be bad. I know I will be freaking out about that soon. For right now though, I’m just feeling very very lucky. So lucky to still have a chance with this pregnancy, and so lucky to be having these experiences of pregnancy. Even if this ends badly, I never thought I would have the chance to see that little life moving around inside me, and to wear maternity clothes, and to share good news with people. Over the last three years I would have given anything for those experiences, and I wouldn’t have gotten to have them at all if we had adopted. No matter what happens, I’m getting to experience pregnancy. That is enough for right now.

So I hope you all have a wonderful new year’s. I’m thinking of all of you who could use some freaking good luck of your own. I sincerely hope 2014 is a better year for all of us. Thank you so much for your support the past few weeks, you have no idea how much it has meant.

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59 thoughts on “Is this real??

  1. Wow, Praise God – I just knew you were going to have good news. I’ve been praying so hard for you sweetie. I’m going to keep praying and hoping for you. That is incredible that you were able to see the baby kick – I’m so happy for you. Thank you Jesus for this precious little life – I’m excited and nervous along with you 🙂 EEEK, so exciting!

  2. OMG I AM CRYING TEARS OF JOY RIGHT NOW!!!!! I am so overwhelmingly thrilled for you guys!!! Yay!!! I just knew the bean would be ok. I KNEW it! Hun, this is amazing! This one is a fighter! You’re a fighter! I have every confidence everything is going to be great. Best freaking news I’ve heard all YEAR! Honestly!!!! Love to you! xx

    • Awwwww, thanks :). This little peanut is insanely lucky to have so many people pulling for him/her, he/she is definitely a fighter :). K, now it’s time for your good news! So so hoping your upcoming scan is just as good.

  3. Wow!!!! Congratulations, Momma! Hoping the news continues to be good. It’s not bad being high-risk – we got lots of special attention and a zillion ultrasounds. It’s actually quite nice to be treated as someone special after so many losses. Can’t wait to her the next update!

    • I totally agree! If my doctor hadn’t suggested it to begin with I would have been pushing for it. I definitely think it will give us the best possible chance, and the more ultrasounds the better!

    • Thank you so much, really. This peanut is so lucky to have so many people pulling for him/her. I’m really trying to just relax and enjoy this, but there’s always the fear that if I get too excited it’ll jinx things.

  4. That’s just the best news! I know for us it was having the scan where we saw baby move that made it all feel real and possible. I’m hoping that everything goes exactly as it should and all the previous appointments were just tiny hiccups on the road to this perfect experience! Happy New Year!

  5. Oh hon, I’m crying tears of joy right now! I just knew this little on was okay! So freakin happy for you!! I know it’s going to be so hard to not worry, but try to enjoy all these moments too. Praying everything is great with your little one at the nuchal translucency/anatomy scan! Happy New Year! 2014 is already starting off great! This gives me so much hope ❤

  6. Wow wow wow! ELATED for you, for this victory, for this little life that hasn’t given up and is going strong! A reminder to us all that we also have the right to hope despite past disappointments. Girl, a thousand well wishes for you and your baby to be in 2014!

  7. I got a bit choked up reading this bc it was basically how my 9 week scan went. We had 2 scans previous with heartbeats of 90bpm’s and something like 112 bpm’s and the doctors all said – nope, probably not viable. I showed up for that 9 week scan unsure what I was going to see and then she waved at me. That was my graduation day too. Not how I expected things to go at all. I’m here still pregnant at almost 21 weeks now. You’re going to feel anxious for a while, hang in there. Congratulations! x

    • Thank you so much for sharing that. It really really helps to hear other success stories with the same situation (trusting yours continues to be a success :-)). So they didn’t ever find a reason for your low heart rates?

      • No explanation. I think just some little embies are a bit slow to catch on. I guess too that they come up with these average numbers but there still has to be some in the low range. I almost wished I hadn’t been scanned so early. Would have saved me a lot of worrying (not that I wouldn’t have worried anyway of course).
        Also, I meant to mention that it’s totally normal to measure a couple days behind. It’s only a concern if it’s more than a full week behind. Mine has measured a few days behind at every scan. Now that I’m not with the RE all the doctors are **super positive**… sooooo not used to that. Feels like the bizarro world sometimes.

  8. Wow. Just Wow. I am so so so so happy for you. This also gives me so much hope. I will keep you in my thoughts that that little baby continues to grow by leaps and bounds. Congrats on your graduation to an OB too!! 🙂

  9. Hey! I know I already commented on this post (I’m checking on you and Lisette today) but I just wanted to make sure you were doing okay and to let you know that I’m thinking about you and rooting for you like crazy!! Hugs friend. I hope you’re doing well.

    • Thanks, I’ve been thinking alot about you too lately, I’m sorry you’ve been so down :(. Computer is broken so hard to comment :(. I’m doing okay, VERY hard to be patient until our next appointment, but no bleeding or anything in the meantime, so that’s good I guess. Still feeling like theyre totally going to find something wrong on the NT scan, but nothing I can do but wait. Thanks for thinking to ask, your so sweet.

  10. I just found your blog and have been reading through and just had to say CONGRATS! I believe your blog is the 3rd that I’ve found today with pregnancy news! It’s all so exciting. I will definitely be thinking about you and praying for your family! I am anxiously awaiting your next update with happy baby news 🙂

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